Update: Still Struggling...

Hi Everyone... Sorry that I haven't posted in a while. Anyway... although things have MUCH improved like I mentioned in my last post, I am still not 100% of the way there. I find that I have good days and bad days and I haven't quite figured out what causes them. I did find out that I have a lot of food sensitivities and that I need to take care of by doing an elimination diet. Your diet can affect vestibulitis so I recommend that everyone pay attention to what they eat and see if you notice any foods causing even a slight digestive upset.

I have been having a lot of luck with the lidocaine gel and I am continuing to use that almost every time before sex. I also bought some latex gloves and have been manually stretching out the vaginal opening on a weekly basis (I wish I could get up the motivation to do this daily because I think it makes a big diference).

I wanted to recommend a book to everyone because I've been getting a lot of questions lately via email and I think this book will help.

http://www.amazon.com/Ending-Female-Pain-Self-Help-Suffering/dp/1439257779/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1354831897&sr=8-1&keywords=vestibulitis

I CAN FINALLY ENJOY SEX! 8 months post vulvar vestibulectomy update surgery

Just another update... and a good one at that :)

I'm feeling really confident that my vestibulodynia is is 98% gone!!! This is big news since I have been suffering with this for over 4 years... since I was 17! I have no idea what caused it because I experienced pain ever since my first sexual experience. It could have been birth control, it could have been excessive nerve endings, it could have been an injury... Actually after thinking about this a lot I realized there is a good chance it could have been the result of an injury I had the summer before I started having sex. I slipped and fell on my right hip and fractured a lower vertebrae. I didn't find out about this until 3 years later when I finally got an xray at the chiropractor because I didn't feel any unusual pain up until that point and the fall didn't seem that bad. This could have irritated up my nerve endings and caused lingering pain and muscle tightness in the pelvic floor. Either way... I don't need to worry about that anymore because now I'm feeling great.

I still feel some pain when I use my finger to gently stretch out the area but once I use my lidocaine, I'm invincible! It also seems to be an area that is not bothered during intercourse.. maybe a spot that was missed when identifying the painful area before surgery and therefore was not removed. I try at least 3+ times a week to basically massage the area down there and really stretch out the tissue. I also practice flexing and relaxing my pelvic floor before bed each night to make sure that everything down there stays calm. It's amazing the difference I can feel since before physical therapy. I also think getting a full body massage can help too by just getting everything to relax. You might have pain points elsewhere on the body that are affecting your pelvic floor.

I still use lidocaine about 10 minutes before sex each time and and I will continue this until I feel confortable without it. I think a lot of this is mentally training yourself that sex feels good again and your body is healed.

Sorry for the terrible writing... most times I'm blogging on the go from my phone with little or no proof reading. Thanks for reading!

Updates Post Vulvar Vestibulectomy Surgery 6 months

Hi Everyone! Sorry it's been so long since I have posted anything. I continued physical therapy until the end of April and since then have been too busy to continue. I now do some stretching exercises a few times a week using a latex glove and a little lidocaine gently stretching the vaginal opening. Sometimes sex is 90% or more painless!!! This is great! The new lidocaine gel prescription seems to be working much better than the old variety I was using. The best (most pain free)  time of the month seems to be a week after my period ends up until a week before it begins. After that it seems to be more painful and I'm not sure if that has to do with changing hormones or levels or discharge. I always put lidocaine on the irritated area at least 5 minutes before intercourse and I will just keep doing what I'm doing for now.  After another month or two of really pin pointing the days when I have the most pain during intercourse, I will bring it up with my obgyn at my annual. I am fully healed from surgery and there is no noticeable difference in the area. I also am staying away from birth control pills for now and have only been using condoms which works well for the time being.

Sorry I have not been responding to comments... I set it up so I am supposed to receive emails every time someone posts but it seems many of them are ending up in my spam folder. Thanks for reading and I will update as soon as anything changes.

Attempting Sex: Preparing for Intercourse After Vestibulectomy

Just another update. I encourage everyone to read my comment on the last post about addressing pain with physical therapy. So far it has really improved things along with recovering form surgery. I am excited to say that I had sex for the first time yesterday (since surgery) and it went really well. Still some pain with entry and a slight burning at times - but overall very good. I could really tell that my muscles were more relaxed. The area that I had removed with surgery was pain free! I just have some more internal burning that it getting better with PT. I am still going 2x a week and I am now using a size large dilator. The dilator hurts upon insertion but once it's in I feel nothing but mild stretching. Any friction with the dilator is somewhat painful though. I decided to get a size large so that I could be comfortable with something as large or maybe even a little larger than my boyfriend to make him seem smaller.

 I used a 3% lidocaine jelly that I had my pharmacist compound for me because the one that was originally prescribed for me was causing burning. I guess it was a combination of a high percentage (5%) and the base of the lidocaine cream that was causing the burning. I put about a dab about 2x the size of a pea just inside the opening (maybe 1-2 inches inside) from the 2pm to 11pm area. Then I use my figures to gently stretch open the area before intercourse. I wait about 5 minutes and I'm good to go. Make sure to use extra lube! I've found the lidocaine jelly actually works to let things slide easier. I also recommend "surgilube" which is a gentle option that my physical therapist uses. 

Comment and share your questions or experiences!

Addressing the Muscle Pain with Vulvar Vestibulitis

So I've been going to the physical therapist 2x a week for a few weeks now and I have noticed some improvement. I am now 98% pain free with the Q-tip test! Very exciting! And now I am moving on to continue addressing the muscle pain that I've been struggling with. I never realized that muscle pain causes burning the same way that the vestibulitis does. Now that the vestibule tissue is healed and practically pain free I can really identify the location of the muscle pain and it's just inside the vestibule area. The muscles feel so tight during PT and I can tell it is going to take a while to relax them and stretch out.  I try to use the dilators every other day and I am hoping to notice a difference in the next few weeks. If not, my next plan of action is botox which I have heard some women have had success with. The problem with that is you need to get injections every 4 months so I'd rather stick with PT and address the source of the problem. More updates soon! Thanks for reading!

Physical Therapy Update for Vestibulodynia

So I started physical therapy in week 8 and it was really encouraging. I was about 70-80% better with the q-tip test and my PT said this is totally normal because it should take 3 months to full heal. After she palpated the area I recognized some internal pain that I had not really felt before because it was masked by the much more sensitive external area before surgery. I felt a burning sensation and some pain in response to pressure. She told me that this is what muscle pain in this area feels like. It manifests itself as tightness but also burning in some situations too.

I used the sensor to test my muscles ability to contract and relax and did fairly well (much better than when I first went last spring). I bought a small+ dilator to start and am going to work my way up to a larger one.  You start by putting lubricant on the dilator (I found surgilube worked really well because is doesn't burn at all) and insert it into the vagina past where it starts to hurt and so that you feel a slight stretching or burning and leave it in for 10 minutes (I suggest using a pillow and a towel to keep it in so you don't have to hold it.) Then just relax your muscles and read a magazine or watch tv while you sit there with it inside. I am trying to do this 3-4 times a week in between my PT appointments which are once or twice a week.

6 to 8 Weeks Post Vulvar Vestibulectomy

It has now been almost 8 weeks since surgery. I had my 6 week check up about 10 days ago and everything is looking good. The 6 o clock area is still not full healed so my doctor told me to hold off on any stimulation to the area so I don't aggravate it. This means no sex... although the doctor did say oral sex was okay just nothing internal.  I don't have another scheduled appointment with my obgyn so now it's just a waiting game. I've been putting some calendula oil and aloe on the area to aid in healing. I don't have any discomfort doing normal every day activities. I do still have some swelling though; I notice it more when I wear tight pants and it is kind of like a bump on the outer labia that goes away after a while. I still soak in a sitz bath maybe once a week. I have an appointment with my pelvic floor physical therapist next week so hopefully that goes well. I'm a little nervous that the surgery hasn't full fixed my issue. I haven't been able to truly test the tenderness of the area yet but I will update again soon.

Thanks for reading as always!